You told me you needed space and I get that. I get that once in a while, after almost 6 months of relationship you need a break, you need some kind of delusory escape, almost a detachment from which you can understand your own necessities and how you wish to act on your findings. It is absolutely normal for you to act all jealous and pretentious and mean and critical and endorsed a lot of unnecessary fights after long periods in which I tried to make up for my previous mistakes, or ‘mishaps’. I acknowledged them, I begged for your forgiveness and I made a huge progress in terms of making it up for them, turning into this loyal, delicate and obedient girlfriend you always dreamed of having and you always thought you deserve. I did it all for you, but after a lot of nerve-wracking, time-consuming incidents it was still insufficient. You still wanted space. I get it. I am the one destroying our relationship with my dramatic acts and my false personality, but the easiest and less traumatic way of dealing with your insecurities about a particular relationship is simply by ending it. That is it. No remorse, no hard feelings. If you loved that person even the slightest bit, then that person deserves to know where you are standing, even if it is not by their side anymore.
What I now call the ‘I-need-space’ boyfriends is cowards, not heartbreakers. Just cowards. I will not give you the witty ‘You-are-so-worthy’ speech, because in this century women are a symbol of reinvention, of legitimate power, of boundless creativity and commitment to anything they truly believe in, not passivity, sensitivity and pity. Stereotypes are long gone and gender differences are almost extinct in any contemporary society. Therefore, I am saying this loud and clear: do NOT take the ‘I-need-space’ boyfriend back, because he will return at some point in the very near future, just to mess you up once again, just because his ego is so important and he wanted to prove a point. Be independent. Keep working in order for you to become the person you wish to be in let’s say- ten years? Do better, become better and never quit, as surrendering is never an option to these modern day women soldiers, promising to become tomorrow’s leaders.
Does he want space? Give him indefinite, endless and irreversible space. A way through which both of you rediscover yourselves and your beliefs, your fears, your flaws, your ambitions, your dreams, your wishes, your greatest lifetime goals. You will not be disappointed if you never quit trying if you let time take the wheel and you start recovering. Your wounds will heal. Your problems will be sorted out. Your dreams will become reality. Life is a ride and It all starts with a meeting point. A point where you accept that you are no longer needed, respected and treated right and there is no point for you to get stuck on things that deliberately requested your dismissal.
Between Ardency and Glory 